The End of A Decade
2010-2019 it's been real.
me to me
We have eaten, spent time with family and friends and friends who have become family, shared jokes and laughter and presents. But all good things must come to an end. Today is the last day of Christmas, meaning that there is still one more major event happening that we are preparing for, be it mentally, spiritually or physically: New Year's Eve. The end of a year and the end of a decade.
And what a decade it has been!
If you’re a 90's baby like me, thirty is coming at you as fast as lightning and you have very likely been through some deep sh* stuff or are maybe still going through it.
Money and subsequently bills have become more of an issue as we have outgrown our teenage selfs with adult life knocking on our door,its bags packed and ready to move in with full force. Adulting has been everything but easy and has taken us through the ride of our lives. To think that this is just the beginning of it all and that there is still so much more to come is mind bugging.
In this decade, I went from being a full on weave wearer to returning natural. I chopped my hair off three times. I changed my major three times because the third time's apparently a charm and what a charm it has been so far. I learned about loss. The kind that leaves a gaping hole in your heart. I moved out of home, lived by myself, then with roommates (yes, several.) who taught me some of my most important life lessons including forgiveness. And then moved back home again because I was close to losing my mind. Come to think of it, I think I did lose my mind somewhere there in the middle. I partied hard, oh the hangovers (no, seriously it was a lifestyle). I struggled with depression. I had dark, dark, dark days which I will elaborate on soon. I lost love. And found love again. God's love, Self love and the Love of my life (shoutout to papichulo). I went through different cycles of friendships, some ended and others elevated into true sisterhood (shoutout to my sisters for life).
This is not just the end of a year. It is the end of a whole decade. So, as we say goodbye to the 2010’s and wait in anticipation for the 2020’s all I can say is it has been a ride. And a turbulent one at that. But we made it. We, being whoever is reading this, whoever thought about ending it all when they were halfway through. Because the glass that seemed half full for everyone else, constantly seemed to be half empty for you. Giving up because there was no more strength left to give. We are almost there!
So instead of maybe already thinking of a master plan for 2020 and the decade to come, take some time for yourself and reflect on the past ten years and see for yourself how far you have come. Do the 10 year challenge, not just by looking at old pictures and comparing them to your pictures now, (thanking God for better fashion choices), but the 10 year challenge that goes deeper, into inner growth. I'm sure you'll find many stories to tell and even more stories to smile upon.
2020, here we come!
Love,
Maame.